“I think you are overreacting” – were the last word a close friend said to me as I hung up the phone. Was I really over reacting?
In the past i have found comfort in knowing that my father taught me to be a man who is understanding, impartial, and fair. I have learned that there are always three sides to any story – your side, their side, and the truth. One should always look at a situation from all points of views before finally making a decision, so why is that when it comes to matters of the heart – one can only see their side.
We have been taught always to put our guard up when it comes to our feelings. To create defense mechanism in order for the blow of a painful breakup, fight, dismissal will not hurt as much. But when is it that we can let our guard down and allow the pain to sink in? How can we tell the good from the bad? And have we been so programmed that we sometimes tend to overreact when we feel the small hint of hurt coming our way?
I have been told that the best way to deal with pain is to face it head on and close the wound. But what about not dealing with it at all? Can we see heart ache coming and all together avoid it? How can we be certain that it will hurt? Have you ever dismissed someone simply because of their actions and given them no explanation and or reason? Guilty – I have
In a recent event in my life i had to make a choice…to take the risk of allowing pain to come in or to simply dismiss it and wonder later of the inevitable – “what if?”
Truth be told – the decision is never easy.