It is said that Love will conquer all. It will defy any obstacle. Move any mountain. Sustain any relationship. But I wonder – does it really? Above EVERYTHING else, does it???
My mother used to say that when Hunger comes through the door, Love will leave through the window. I didnt know what she meant by that, but as an adult – I now do.
Every potential lover, relationship, date – we judge them. The attraction is there, however we can’t help but look at the “rest”. What is the rest? Well, the job, the status, the dreams, the passion, where they live, what they do for a living, etc. etc. The things that love does not see and does not judge. In the end you go with your judgment and not with your heart.
So you question yourself and ask if what you are doing is right. Whether you should listen to your heart. Your chest begins to hurt and your mind starts to wonder. Your left with a feeling of shallowness and selfishness. You begin to judge YOU.
Why is it then that we can’t just allow someone to enter our lives without judgment, with soly just LOVE? It sounds a lot easier than done.
It does sound easier than done. We as humans, tend to judge everything. We are never content with ourselves so the first thing we do is judge everybody around us.
This again sounds like leftover apprehension from past romantic disappointments.
It is legitimate to judge because you’re only comparing your values and desires with the person’s. Falling in love with the guy just because he seems to fulfill your fantasy might not be wise; ruling out dating a guy just because he does not cater to your fantasy would be unfortunate, as well.
A middle ground is usually called for. 😉