Its often funny to think about what love means to each and everyone of us. Whether the love for a puppy, sibling, lover, or friend – is all love created equal? What is the one love that holds no judgment, no fear, no insecurity? The type of love that is given freely instead of being earned?
Websters describes this love as “unconditional love.” It states – “Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of his actions or beliefs..” But can you really truly love someone regardless of their actions? When someone has done you wrong or misguided your trust, can you trully love them? What is love anyways and who’s job is it to identify these rules as to what unconditional love is?
I past relationships I have seen couples stay together because of this “unconditional love.” Their response to the question “why not just leave them?” – “Its not so much THEM per say, its their actions. My love for them is unconditional.” right.
I ask my self – how long can someone play the unconditional card? Is true love really unconditional? or is that we mistake “real” love and pretend that it is unconditional?
My brother has always had my unconditional love and while we may not see eye-to-eye on a lot of subjects, we have always respected each other. Sometimes his actions can seem radical, crazy, uncontrolled but somehow , some way, my father bails him out. When I ask my father why he does what he does KNOWING that my brother will just go back to doing the same, he replies – “he is my son and I love him unconditionally” When it come to family – do they naturally obtain your unconditional love? Is the love of family unconditional? And how many times must one person fuck up for that love to be taken away? Will it ever be taken away?
As it was said by a great witter –
“…I’ll probably never understand ya way,
With everyday I swear I hear ya,
Trying to change your way – unconditional love” – Tupac Shakur